Meowsers Said:
sara you make a good point. borderlines attack themselves utterly and completely. we cannot see anything positive in ourselves. even not knowing instantly what to choose in line at McDonalds can become something to attack yourself about. we are not the only ones to take ages to make decisions -

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self identity problems can ruin your life, but choosing pepsi over cola and feeling antse later is not the same thing at all. mind you, having said that - i have done something so trivial, such as choose something i later deemed 'wrong', and gone home and self harmed because i've used it as evidence that i can't even think about simple things

Yep, this is what I meant when I posted about the issue.

Beating yourself up because you can't make an instant decision is not right. I think whoever does this needs to take a good hard look inside and back in time to see who the hell it was that made you like this. If your parents are still around, is this something they do? Are they impatient? I mean you've got to have gotten some bad information somewhere along the line to that said you were bad if you couldn't decide which flavor of ice cream to get.