Mine is with me when I am in a "normal" mood. As soon as I start moving outside of the boundries defined as "normal", she pulls away physically and emotionally. This of course makes controlling my moods even harder. This pulling away happens almost immediatly when my mood starts to slide.

Once I am back in the "normal" zone, it takes weeks for her to come back to where the relationship feels normal. (At least as normal as it gets these days. I haven't felt secure in the relationship in several years).

Because of this, I simply don't feel comfortable discussing my mood with her. She is one of these people that doesn't want to hear bad news of any kind lest it tarnish her ever-bubbly mood.

When I was diagnosed, she pledged to "Be with me no matter what" so we can get through this, but I don't think there is ever a through. It never really goes away. BTW, we were married for 18 years when I was diagnosed 2 years ago, so she has spent a lot of time with me undiagnosed and untreated.