The empty chair technique. Pretend that the person you feel angry with is sitting in that chair. Express through words and gestures how you feel. When I first learned that I was a very angry and embittered person I saw how raw and visceral my anger was through this exercise. It was scary! But I began to recognize many feelings and thoughts that acted as triggers for my anger.

The anger journal. Keep a log of when you felt angry and include information such as ranking on a scale of 1 to 10 how angry you felt, what happened, what you did in response to your anger and what thoughts or feelings you had.

Catharsis. In a safe environment with someone you can trust let you guard down long enough to release all those repressed feelings. Let it flood through you. I did this during the course of my counseling. I wrecked the office! But as I broke down I recognized how truly destructive my anger was. I imagined what it might have been like if that office was a person (particularly a person I cared about).