Your husband is earning money as a private contractor in Afghanistan, so there should be plenty of money to get the house payments back in order once you get the money situation squared away.

I know the horrible helpless feeling we get when our husbands go off taking care of the working but leave us with the home front mess without the finances to take care of everything.

I remember one time my husband's work sent him to Italy for an unspecified amount of time. I was deep in the depths of depression. His check was in his name & was sitting at his work. I didn't have money for gas to get to the check, I couldn't have done anything with it even if I could have gotten it because it was in his name only. He had stopped the automatic deposit because of some other financial messes he had gotten us into. The house payment came due & there was no sign that he was going to be home any time soon. His excuse for it all was that the company sent him over to Italy before they gave him time to take care of any of the financial issues that he needed to take care of here & left me with the mess he caused.

In the long run things sort of worked out, but he ended up getting fired from the company because he needed to come back home to take care of the mess he left me in.....I ended up not even having enough money for food & his lack of ability to responsibly take care of things just pushed me into a deeper depression.

Needless to say, I finally got into a position where I was able to leave him & not am able to completely take care of myself without having to depend on his lack of ability to take care of anything responsibly when it comes to finances.

I am sure that everything will work out for you as he is working & earning money, there just doesn't seem like you are able to access the money he's earning to take care of things financially at home. You just need to get the arrangements made so that you have the use of the money he's earning so that you can keep up on the expenses that he & you have at home.....know it will all work out in the end, but know how stressful it is during the process of sorting through everything & getting it worked out.