i cut off contact with them, and if i had to see them, i never forgot who they were in the past, and who they might still be,, i don't trust them, ever and most of them are dead or gone far away... the few that i do see i don't pretend to like, and they pretend they don't remember what they did, so in a way, they are dead too,,,, it's the inside ME that has to be dealt with, and i have done that long ago,,, i have found ways to find the good in me that flowered from the seeds of toleration and rebellion that were sown in my heart. i hope you find a way to harvest the fruit of your experiences, whether you liked them or not ~~! best wishes,, Gus