The difficult thing is that if you are in therapy- depending on how vengeful he is, he may try to take the kids and/or make your life extremely miserable.

like- Over reacting to your normal levels of concern about things and making you feel more unstable than you really are. Be careful.

Not to mention the stereotypes that you will have to deal with along with a gradual reduction in the number of people who remain your friend. (Although you will make new ones)

I would really think about where you are, and where you could be before leaving. I'm new here- so I don't know- but if he's abusive- don't let him continue to push your buttons after you leave.