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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
Sometimes I think I am not using common sense with therapy. Kinda like, " Let sleeping dogs lie!"
In other words....don't disturb a situation that is going well, as it may result in trouble or complications. Do not say something or do something that would cause someone else to be angry or to make trouble. If that metaphorical dog is just laying there asleep, leave him be. Don't go messing with him or he might wake up and bite you!
I am tired of being bitten!! That is why I don't disturb things. I ignore then, avoid them, hide from them. I run away! I push the fear and emotions so far down that I hope I never find them!
Kinda like burying a bone that I don't ever expect to dig up and gnaw on! |
Sleeping dogs do wake up though in due time.....and emotions that have been ignored, avoided, hidden, run away from, wake up, too. It might be better to wake them up, in a sense, than to have them wake up.....certainly better to wake them up in a more controlled process/environment like therapy than have them wake up in a less controlled environment or manner......
I should know....I'm really skilled in hiding from my emotions or trying to push them deep where I think it's safer for me to have them be, too. But they do come up.....they come up and find me, and they've done it when I wasn't looking/wasn't aware, and that's less pretty than just confronting them in the first place or confronting them in a safer place like therapy with a safe person like my T to be a guide and helper in dealing with them.