Don't push yourself into meeting people, confidence takes time to create, even learning FAKE confidence takes a long time. Finding someone to be with doesn't happen quickly either, and when we need to work on ourselves as a person because of whatever reason it can take longer. Hey I'm 23 and never even been on a date. I'm TERRIFIED of intimacy, and I have no trust for it either. I know and accept there are reasons for that, and I hate it. It's very embarrassing when people question me about it. I also don't find myself even remotely attractive, or appealing. I never believe people who tell me otherwise. I know that if I am ever to have a relationship I've got a lot of work to do first.
If you can do any courses or groups that involve your hobbies you might meet some people. Having a common interest in something is always a great conversation starter. If you meet someone who is keen on something you're keen on, say 'hey I do/love *insert convenient icebreaking hobbie/interest here* too!'. You could get a good conversation out of it and get to know someone.

And nobody is having a go at you, I think when someone is so harsh on themself that they interpret people's comments the way they weren't intended, it can be hard to know what to say so as to not upset, so people end up being rather blunt.