I have some questions about marital rape. Is it real, even the times when there is no violence involved? Do wedding vows give implied consent to sex?
What if one partner is sleeping (deep sleep from medication) and the other performs sexual acts on the sleeping one, what is that called? If you don't say no, is that the same as giving consent? When there is violence involved with sex, is that abuse?

I love my spouse, but I hate sex

We have set up this horrible pattern in our marriage and I don't know if the above is me responding because of all the baggage in my life or if somewhere a line was crossed that we need to back off from.