Hi TheMisunderstoodOne, I want to thank you again for being encouraging to me and being positive and kind. It really cheered me up some. Its great that you are sharing somethings about yourself and sharing the wisdom that you have learned as well. I don`t meant to be negative and counterproductive but can you give me some tips on how I can go about separating from my boyfriend in a kind, gentle way that won`t trigger a break down for him? You seem to have a very nice tactful and positive way of putting things. And I am so terrible at being tactful. I`m so messed up emotionally right now that I need to be able to have the option to walk away from my bf if things don`t get on track soon. Things have not been great between us for almost a year! I just feel unloved, and depressed. But Im considering trying to wait it out till June at the latest and if things arn`t better I`m leaving him. I`ve done everything I can to let him know how I feel but very little has changed, he puts his needs above mine and wont compromise. He`s always gilted me into comprimising for him but he wont do the same for me. I feel that if it don`t start getting better after a whole year in limbo it will never get better! But what ever happens I want to leave him in a kind, descent way so I`m not being hurtful to him, he`s stressing too much about work and school I don`t want to add to it. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.