He tore out the stitches after the episiotomy from my 2nd son because it was too soon.. I think that scared him. When I went to doc to repair stitches...doc lectured me in front of my husband.
I have such a skewed view of sex in general, that started long before him, I have allowed so many things for so many years...it is so confusing to start questioning them now
I think a lot of it is that he just doesn't understand...sex is so pleasurable and meaningful to him, he can't fathom it not being that way for me