Oh my God,my husband did that after both the births of his boys...I can't believe I am reading this! Honestly i had no idea that happened to anyone else.And the damage hurts every time.Can I just insert here,that sex isn't necessarily the issue here so much as regard and tenderness and cherishing you is? Sex can be pleasurable,if you felt tenderly cherished,and warmly loved.I am soooo sorry to read that someone knows this trauma.My heart reaches out to you.CSC