Well, that's a more helpful explanation, but I seriously don't think you can have it both ways. You're right -- you can't make him open up to you, but using someone is just as wrong as being cheated on. Yes, your life of leisure will go downhill if you get divorced, but your dignity, honor, and sense of responsibility will remain more intact than if you use him the way you are proposing.

Most importantly, what kind of example would you be setting for your kids?