I am ruining a marriage of 12 years because of sudden trust issues. No matter what my wife says or does, no matter what receipt or music or text or phone calls she gets my mind twists it to 'prove' she is having an affair. None of the things I find prove anything real and she has been seemingly honest and patient with me through all this. I have read that often this can be a self esteem issue, I know I have low self esteem. How do I quit snooping and how do I relax and stop accusing when I find things that set me off?