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Old Feb 19, 2011, 09:44 PM
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Originally Posted by lastyearisblank View Post
I think not all people can attain that level of self awareness about what is their stuff and what is others'. The manipulation for me is in saying, "I'm setting the agenda now... but it's for your own good."
I guess it's assertiveness training that makes a distinction between passive, aggressive, and assertive. "I'm setting the agenda but it's for your own good", sounds pretty aggressive to me while "I have to take care of you no matter what you do", sounds kind of passive. I'd like to think that "tough love" is just another term for assertive: "I'll let you live here, but only as long as you respect my boundaries."
Thanks for this!
lastyearisblank, SophiaG