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I've been following your other thread about your daughter and wanted to post, but wasn't sure what to say because my "story" is the opposite. My daughter saw my T first (my former T, not the one I see now) and I used to drive her there. I became jealous of her relationship and wanted therapy for myself. My T was not against seeing all members of a family, though she asked my d if it would be okay first.

I ended up seeing my T for over 5 years; my d finished much sooner. The overlap didn't bother me except when I drove her to her session and waited for her. I wished it were MY session. I started getting triggered because I became attached to my T whereas my d wasn't. My T didn't have rules about my d and I talking about therapy, but we didn't do it anyway, at least not while she was still seeing her.

I got jealous because my T allowed my d to email her but she didn't allow me to. It was only for scheduling, but T thought I'd write too much. There were a few other times I got jealous too. But it was helpful for my T to treat me as well as my daughter since I needed guidance on my relationship with her, so she could help me more, knowing both of us.

I hope that you can tell your d that you will feel uncomfortable seeing the same T. I can understand your feelings about wanting your T for yourself! I also identify with your feelings for your T, including the sexual ones. I think it's mostly because of the intimacy of the t-relationship. It's complicated, but my T just says she accepts all my parts. My other Ts said my needs were more sensual, and they got mixed up. I think I posted this to you in the other thread, but wanted to repeat it so you know you're not alone.