Can't Stop Crying,

I'm sitting here trying to be objective and to not let my incredulity and compassion sweep me away...

...my inner self wants to hold you and rock you and tell you that it will be alright... and to try to make you feel as loved and cherished and safe as you deserve... not as a woman... but as a fellow human being that is in pain.

It is beyond my ability to comprehend how a man can TAKE his pleasure from a woman when she experiences no emotional connection, satisfaction or pleasure her self. I don't understand how that can be... I truly don't... It's animalistic...

I am NOT judging your husband. He is who he is and is the product of his life experiences... I'm sure that he is letting his sexual desire justify the atrocities he is committing against you. It appears that in his own mind, you are his wife and he has his needs and it is you duty as his wife to satisfy his needs whenever they arise.

I don't know. I may have a distorted view of the situation... because I am so upset by it.

Wife or not... NO man can have ANY claim on ANY woman EVER. He can only ASK her if she would be interested in being an equal participant in an intimate and MUTUALLY pleasurable and emotionally fulfilling experience. You have every right in the world to reject his advances REGARDLESS of his desire to the contrary! In short, making love is something that BOTH people must want. It is something that benefits BOTH people.

Can't Stop Crying, in my opinion... and it is ONLY my opinion, your husband is not having sex with you. He is having sex with himself. You are merely the object of his sexual needs. He is RAPING you against your will. What he is doing is selfish, heartless, uncaring, loveless, disrespectful, abusive and is completely outrageous behavior without exception.

Whether you find sex pleasurable or not isn't the point here. It is NOT the point.

The point is, has no right to you or claim on you, but he is abusing you none-the-less.

Anyway, I probably shouldn't be writing this because I'm upset about what you're having to go through and am not being very objective about it...

I hope you're feeling better...
You're in my thoughts...

Dan