Sex between a couple should be about the love they have for each other, not 'I'm going to have sex with you whether you're going to enjoy it or just lie there'. That is your HUSBAND, he is the last person who should be using, hurting or taking advantage of you. You're not a sexual object for a man to use for his gratification, you are not obliged in ANY way to succumb to any form of pressure because you have a marital relationship with him. I don't care if the 2 of you love each other or not, having sex with someone who doesn't want it in return is not an expression of love at all. If he's got an itch to scratch, that's what his hands are for, not his wife, he can sort himself out.