This has really got me thinking. It is sad that so many can relate. It also makes me feel powerless, there is a twisted sense of power in self-blame, a tool I've used far too frequently. This thread tells me that maybe I'm not to blame. If I can blame myself, then I'm the screwed up one and I can fix it. It is hard to let go of that control and admit that maybe he hurt me and knew it all along. Then it makes me wonder why......