Generic question but here is why I'm asking. 12 year marriage. In my words just a dead relationship. We don't hate (I don't anyway) we still are kissing and saying I love you and I seem to get the feeling she is willing to give things another go. I posted questions about choosing a therapist on another forum but what I want to know is this. What are little things I can do right now, today, to make her feel loved. I started saying I love you and trying to kiss and hug as much as I think she'll tolerate. What else could I be trying? I know it sounds like a stupid question but after 12 years of doing nothing for eachother I need help. I also know she may not respond right away but what can I look for to give me a llittle hope?