Rebuilding a relationship is a slow process, you cannot rush it.
Also, you cannot recreate the past - you will both have changed as people since you married. Your new relationship may not be the same as it used to be, so you must expect changes.
Kisses and cuddles are great, but may not be entirely welcome if she feels distant from you.
I would say it is more important to learn to listen to her - I mean really listen, giving her your full attention. See how things develop from there.
Be patient. Good luck.