I hope this feedback is helpful to you. When I read your post I thought of someone I know. She would say and do things that she wanted to say and do, and when those things drew poor reactions from others, she would become upset. It was my opinion she was a very angry person, and in deep denial of her anger, and that she was extremely passive-aggressive, and her passive-aggression frequently came out in saying unkind things to others; but that she was in deep denial they were unkind. But my opinion didn't really matter; and I don't think it is a matter or having autism or Asperger's or any other mental health condition: it's a fact of life: every action has a reaction, and you are discovering that the things you say draw a reaction. As others have posted, some people found you amusing. Others did not. Because you control what comes out of your mouth (we can think whatever we like; thank goodness no one hears what doesn't pass our lips) you can control to a great extent the reaction you get. You now know that people are sensitive about how babies are referred to, and I think you sense that baby showers are somewhat ritualized, in that people who attend them generally go with the tacit understanding that everyone is nice and all babies are nice and isn't this fun (and nice)? I like babies, but despise baby showers, so I don't attend the parties, because I can't join in wholeheartedly with the 'fun.' I hope you have found this feedback helpful.