Rainbow, are you really saying that granite's T made her terrified of talking and made her feel horrible about herself? This kind of validation for feelings based on distortions is harmful imo.

How exactly is granite's T making her feel horrible about herself? Terrifying her? What are the FACTS? Granite feels these things but are they based on facts? I don't think so.

Granite, you could be on the verge of a real breakthrough with this therapist if you would be willing to try to work through this instead of running away. Could you write on a piece of paper your feelings and tell her you want to try to work through this with her and then bring it with you and read it to her? Just a sentence or two so you dont get overwhlemed? Sometimes a "rupture" can be the catalyst to a major breakthrough. If it doesn't work out then of course you can find another T. It's your choice to make. You are not a horrible person and your T is not saying that! Please look at the facts before making any decisions.

Remember MUE's rupture and how everyone jumped on the "get a new T" bandwagon? Well MUE worked through it and as painful as it was it worked out for the better.