Tay, I agree with your post but the problem is that granite CANNOT go in and work through and discuss it with her T. That's the whole point. If she could, then there wouldn't be any problem, or least they would be able to work through it. I know how it feels to want to talk but not be able to. I agree that emailing is not a permanent solution, but in over a year this T has NOT made it safe for granite to talk except maybe a few times. Instead, she's made her terrified of talking and made her feel horrible about herself. I think she's a good T but doesn't know what to do and has become frustrated. If granite is willing to try someone else, it could change the whole pattern. Sometimes starting over with someone new who has a different approach is what gets the ball rolling. If not, she can always decide to go back to this T.

What do YOU think, granite? This is your thread and I don't like to talk about you, but TO you.
Actually, I see that you did post why you can't go back. You explained it very well, I think.