coming from the woman's view....
Do you tell her you appreciate the things she does for you?
Do you do fun and exciting things together or things that you both enjoy?
What were the things that made the 2 of you fall in love in the first place and get engaged/married? what were the things that you did together that kept you energized.

If you are coming off a big "issue" in your relationship, you need to continue to be honest and ask her where her head is at? Kissing and hugging is nice, but women want a lot more than physical intimacy - Martin was right about listening - pay attention to what she says and then follow through. the littlest gestures mean the most. one rose on a Tuesday means a lot more than a dozen on valentines day.