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Originally Posted by TayQuincy
And you have only been here on this site since December so the pattern you see is based on only a short amount of time. Granite has been working with this T much longer than that. Only granite can decide whether this T is a good fit but just from reading her posts, it is clear to me that she is in emotion mind and basing her decisions on distortions. Like darkrunner said, feelings are not facts and it wouldn't be wise to make decisions about anything without the facts. Granite's T told her a long time ago that she wasn't to email in place of talking but she has continued to send emails instead of talking. If granite isnt talking after all this time, maybe this T isn't the right fit but this is something to be worked through and discussed before ditching the therapy in a state of distress.
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I was reading long before I was posting, tay.
And I have gone back and read a lot too. I can see a pattern where it's been hard for granite to see if she can trust this T, because this T has seemed to be often trying different things and it has led to this point where things have gotten hard and granite isn't sure what to expect. After a year, maybe things should be a little clearer than this, for the T in knowing what direction to take in therapy and for granite to know T will be consistent ?
I am not thinking it is no distortion at all, but neither am I thinking it is
all distortion.....and I am thinking perhaps this T isn't the right fit. But that is granite's decision; I haven't tried to make it for her either!
I don't think I really jumped on the bandwagon for MUE to get a new T either, though it seemed as though there was justifiable reason to think he was in error, as well, and not reacting objectively......but there, as well as here, I am not advocating running away from a T in a panic without making efforts to think it through, to think through the emotion....and I think granite is trying to do just that. (and actually, granite, I am proud of the efforts you are making to work through it and do what is right for you and for your therapy!
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Emotions cannot be discounted in decision making processes, either.....I agree that decisions shouldn't be made based mostly on emotion without trying to reason things through, but emotions can't just be completely separated out of the process, either. Feelings are not always facts, true.....but then again, they are often a part of the facts, a part of the truth, and a part that needs to be considered in decisions, too. I think I'll leave it to granite whether or not she feels this is distortion......she's the one who's there and experiencing this. I guess none of us can really say it completely
isn't distortion anymore definitely than any of us can say it
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Putting all this debating aside......I am simply offering you my sincere care and support in working through this, granite, and I think you have the strength to do it, whether it involves trying to work through this with this T, or finding closure with her, or finding another who feels like a better fit.