I'm a little out of the loop, not having been around much the last week or so I don't know exactly what's going on with you and your T, granite. I have the idea, though, from reading this thread. I just want to say that I understand how her changing the routine, and changing the way she interacts with you, could be triggering for you. It certainly would be for me, too.

I get the feeling that your T is maybe trying a new tactic as a way to sort of shock you into moving forward in your therapy. Those kinds of tactics almost never work on me, but your T is probably doing it out of genuine concern and caring for you. Like others above, I encourage you to talk to your T about this. I know how hard that is for you. But it is the only way to work through it.

Hang in there, granite, and keep posting.