Hello Renee!

It kind of amuses me that your husband thinks nothing of taking days off because he is salaried. My fiance is kind of the completely opposite, takes as little time off from work as possible. He worked a half day the day we had to fly home for my grandmother's funeral.

Anyways, I kind of understand where you are coming from. My fiance and I have been together for five years (engaged on Christmas) and we recently moved to another state (from the east coast to the midwest) for a job for him. Before we moved out here, he was only working part time himself as a tutor at the high school and I was in college. We both traveled to look for apartments before moving so we'd have some place to move right into. Otherwise, everything else waited until we moved here. I still have changed my license plate or my license (and we've been here since June but I have to do it this month). We basically put everything on a credit card which has no interest until May or something, and my fiance is steadily paying it down each month. But yes, we are short on money. I work two jobs, both with out a lot of hours, both not a whole lot of money, and both hourly with bi-weekly paychecks. If anything needs to get down between nine and five that he can't do over the phone on his lunch break, I have to take care of it, such as getting his car new license plates. We also have separate accounts right now (though, I do have a card for his credit card with my name on it). We don't really fight about money much, you just have me sitting there going "Where did it all go? Why does everyone think we have money when we don't??"

I don't really have much advice, I just wanted you to know I understand your frustrations. Perhaps some of the things that he thinks need to be done can actually wait until you get there when you don't have to take off a bunch of days at once to travel. Perhaps your husband could take care of some of these things on his own if he feel it is absolutely necessary to go there before the move. You could also try making a budget together (something my fiance and I keep trying to do ourselves) that says how much you make every two weeks, how that money is spent, etc. Maybe even hang it on the fridge so he has to look at it everyday.

Moving is super stressful. They say there are, I think, 5 major stressors that affect people. Marriage, moving, and new jobs are on that list. Try to take some time for you just to relax and not worry about everything. I'm sorry I can't be more help. I just wanted you to know you weren't alone.

Take care!
Ro