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Originally Posted by Squiggle328
My daughter called me today. She said that she had been thinking about what I said, and agrees that it would be awkward for us to see the same therapist. She said that she cancelled her appointment. She has found another Christian organization that she is looking into.
While I should be jumping up and down, shouting for joy, for some reason I feel great sadness. When I hung up the phone I started crying. I feel like I made a big deal out of nothing and should have allowed her to keep the appointment in the morning.
On the other hand, at some point I have to stand up for my needs. I cannot keep pushing myself in the corner to take care of everyone else. Standing up for myself is not feeling very good right now. Guilt and shame are visiting me  |
Bless your daughter's heart, squiggle! I'm glad she agreed that it would be awkward and that she has found something else to look into; I hope it works out for her.
You didn't make a big deal out of nothing. You did the right thing for yourself and for her; she did the right thing for herself and for you.
It's natural to feel ambivalent about it, I think. Acknowledge that you feel the guilt and shame a bit....then show them out the door; they don't need to stay with you. They're toxic guests - especially in this situation, when you deserve to be proud for taking good care of yourself and your relationships.
