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Old Feb 20, 2011, 09:54 PM
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Originally Posted by Miss Laura View Post
I feel I HAVE to give something back to people. I will do the ordinary stuff ie make cup's of tea's, send a funny text to cheer them up etc...

I have in the past few years

1. Wrote nice sentimental cards showing how grateful I am for having friends as friends

2. Took friends out for Lunch or Dinner and paid

3. Bought gifts for friends

They all say I am bonkers for the last 2. I feel obliged. I feel no matter what I do or say I can not repay them for being my friends etc
I have very few friends...I have social anxiety...I never really knew how to make friends growing up as a kid because my mom isolated me...and she gets jealous...she wants to be the only person in my life...this had a huge negative affect on me...I could not and still have troubles connecting to other people of my age group.

as for my bf I bought him choclate yesterday because our relationship was bumpy for awhile...and he works so hard. I met him after his work shift and took the bus home with him...told him to close his eyes...and I put the chocolate in his hand (he is addicted to chocolate...cannot go without the stuff)...he was so happy, wnated to eat it in one sitting.

I send my bf texts often...tell him I love him everyday...hug him...snuggle him...make him a romantic dinner..when he gets home late from work...make baked goods. rub his back...or massage his head when he is stressed.

we often work out together or study together as well. I try to make him feel like a prince whenever I can.
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