Distressed:

re: My question, how do i deal with this anger without contact him?? Or how can i distract myself from this?
Or what is the solution to this? SO i dont get pent up anger.
>>> I can only speak for myself on this. I learned, from an Anger book, (don't remember the name) that I need to send my rage right back to the person or thing that caused it and then imaginatively sit that person in a stuffed chair and tell that person everything I ever wanted to including cursing, yelling, screaming, crying and even beating the crap out of that 'imaginary' person in the stuffed chair until I was TOTALLY exhausted (which might take a long time)! The alternative is beating up a bed with fists or implements but go at it until I am completely exhausted and drained. This dissipates much of the anger and, hopefully, does not harm you. You may have to do this when no one is around to become alarmed at your loud, violent and ANGRY yelling, screaming, weeping, beating, pounding, slamming process as you express and release the angry rage and painful energy the abuse has stored up within you. I had to do this several times and still carry some anger towards my parents and a few others from my past. It's really just a dynamic process of expressing and releasing painful, wounded and VIOLENT energy that abusive violations place within us but is meant to be done in as nondestructive a way as possible. IMO, unless we express and heal old wounded feelings, they never let us go and may even begin causing problems like arthritis, cancer, migraines, depression, RAGE, etc.
good luck,
jim