Thank you everyone. I just have this love/hate relationship with him, that makes me sometimes feel like im the luckiest woman to have him when he puts up the effort that made me love him in the first place, and sometimes like I made a horrible mistake deciding to spend my life with him when I knew I was probably asking for trouble.I waver between these two extremes so much it makes my head spin sometimes. I just know he doesnt do these things purposefully, that its just in his nature and he was even forthright about that to me from nearly the beginning, and I would feel a fool to turn around now after all these years and say "sorry but im leaving you for being who you are." I love him and enjoy his company and most of these slip ups have been very few and far between until recently. im not sure what has brought about the change in him lately