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Originally Posted by TheMisunderstoodOne
Hmmm... I mean, its good 2 care for somebody else. Cuttin off a relationship is hard for most ppl. I understand that u dont wanna hurt his feelings, and I know u dont wanna cause problems. But a negative overreacton might be inevitable. U have to look out 4 urself 2. Try to prepare and anticipate the possible outcomes of wut might happen when that time comes. Its a good idea 2 be polite when u do so, but the hardest part is when u actually deliver the news to him. Then, u will get that off ur chest and release thAt burden. After that, its a matter of overcoming that feeling of wut seems like guilt, and finally moving on with ur life. He may be hurt in the process, but he also will have 2 except it. U dont have 2 blame urself, it seems like u tried everything in ur power 2 make it work. But staying in a relationship no love,communication, or understanding will only harm urself even further, u feel me? U must look deep within yourself and find the courage to follow through with ur plans. I wish u luck!
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Hi TheMisunderstoodOne, thanks! Check this out, so I finally came up with a non-confrontational, polite, pleasant way to confront my bf and see where we are at and what he thinks without coming at him all hard with criticism and a break up and I kind of want to get him to break up with me anyway. Can you tell me your opinions of the statement below, is it OK and is there any room for him to get paranoid and delusional about why I want to break up?
Here is what I want to say to him:
"I know you have a lot of things to do such as work and school and you've been so tired and stressed these days, so we don't get to talk and communicate as much as we would like. I know you love and care about me but are you able to continue this relationship with me? Please be honest even if the answer is no. We will just go away in peace like you wanted."
This will put the ball in his court, make him aware of some of his short comings and all in a nice way without me getting angry and rehashing everything that didn't work out, which at this point I think is irrelevant.
He'll either come clean and admit he doesn't want to be with me anymore and that will be that or he will say no everything is fine and keep dragging the relationship on.
If he does do the latter, I will just tell him in a nice way that I feel he is not able to keep up with our relationship because of his different priorities and I think we should go our separate ways.
He has told me long ago that he wanted to have a nice and caring break up and I always wanted to just tell him like it is. But it might be OK if I don't get all my frustration out for the last time, after all it won't make a bit of difference for me in the long run. It won't fix my broken heart or make things right.
I probably won't be able to say it with a straight tone without getting choked up or totally crying. Which is not good when you are breaking up. But well, what happens happens.