Distressed,

I hope you are well.

I think some of the commenters have been a bit harsh on you.

This man behaved badly. Its not your fault. And not your fault not to know what to do and how to react. Lots of women would have been confused as to how to react.

Its hard to imagine that someone will act so dishonestly and with alterior motives... And when you suspect that - do you trust your insticts? Are you right? and what if you are not and you create a scene? how would you look then? and if you tell him you dont want to see him again - and then it turns out he had no bad intentions after and you shut him away.... All these things go in minds of women in similar situations. The thing is - and I think that is the most important in this case - who cares what he thinks? you are not responsible for him. you are not even responsible of what will happen if you do decide not to see him again as we never have 100% control. Shedding this responsibility - or sense of it - will help you in also in that you will not feel cheap for his cheap actions. You are your own person. Please continue therapy and share this with your therapist as it can open the door to lots of stuff I think. Just remember: YOU ARE OK! And if you feel someone may be taking advantage of you, or may be having alterior interntions or may want to use you for sex etc - you are probably right. Trust yourself. Nice good guys do not make women feel this way. I am so glad you posted here!