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Originally Posted by
Tatyana2009 
From my experience - stay away from him. He is looking for control.
He has no right to ask you about your past. Its so personal. He is trying to seem like the good man who would rescue you when in fact he is looking for his own gratification. You do not need his assistance. You can do it!
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Its funny you said that Tatyana because at times when I did feel weird, I'd tell myself, well He is nice, if hes saying that something happened in the past that made me this way, maybe he would understand if i opened up to him.. but then there was the thought that he's married and I can't really open up to a married person! and later on, as time passed, i felt it was just part of his game and he was trying to manipulate me and once i'd open up, he'd act as my savior. but then theres the past that you think about and think, am i being paranoid? is this stemming from my past? and then, the confusion follows.
thanks! 
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You are welcome! Yes, the past can make shadows but I think inside you are healthy so trust yourself.
He plays a game as you say - and part of his game is to make you feel weak and on some level - not ok. So you will need him and then be dependant on him. Its a dangerous game and a hurtful one. A man who really likes you and want to be there would not ask you like this about your past - he would do everything to gain your trust and your past wont matter a thing. Good guys dont make us wonder or feel paranoid. Thats what makes them good guys