You're right- it is a big choice to leave. I'm sorry to be spouted my circumstances but on the same token understand what you're going through.

After 11 years, I found my H in a variety of relationships and he asked me if I wanted to stay together in some 'arrangement' but I DO deserve better.

I have always worked FT and recently quit my job, so essential today I have half the income I had durning the first year of my separation.

It was worth it to me. I have to make sacrifices but I'm now at home FT where I used to work outside the home FT-so it can be done. Honestly, it's amazing what you can do once jump into a new siuation.

I will also say that it's not fair to you, your spouse or your children to stay in a relationship for finacial security. To me it's telling your children it's ok to sacrific happiness for the sake of comfort.