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Feb 22, 2011, 05:06 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Oh boy ~ you've got one of those, huh? I imagine she's getting anxious for some grandchildren.  She might already have some but wants some from YOU too. I don't know what it is about some mothers. They just figure that their children HAVE to be married in order to be "fulfilled." Boy, that couldn't be further from the truth! 
Yeah, I was married once -- to a big jerk who controlled my every move. I couldn't leave the house without telling him EXACTLY where I was going - and then he'd call me when I got there to make sure that's where I was!!! Sheesh. The only place I EVER went was my mothers! I stood that nonsense for 26 years (yeah, I know -- I'm nuts) plus alot of other stuff too, and finally divorced the idiot. And I found out that I'm much more fulfilled being SINGLE. Of course not everyone marries kooks like I did either.
I agree with you. Your life should be your own, without outside stressors. Perhaps a nice one on one "chat" with her would do the trick. Just tell her what you said here -- that you don't want to "settle" for just anyone -- that you want to wait for that special "someone" and you don't really care how long it takes -- you have other things to do in the meantime.  But while you're waiting, you'd appreciate it if she wouldn't keep trying to set you up with every Joe Blow that appears. Do you think she'd understand??? Or would that upset her? You're gonna have to say something to her or she's going to keep it up. 
I wish you the very best. I hope you can put a stop to it. God bless. Hugs, Lee
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