I do not think these are actual dx's or disorders per se..I think from what I have read they are learned traits...like most likely he had a controlling parent and thus he will choose women who have the same trait and she may have had a domineering parent so she seeks to control...I find that those who seek to control often have very little control on other issues in their lives say like that had SA in the past so they compensate by trying to control other and all areas of their lives..It is also possible he may use his wife as an excuse to move or put distance between him and his family. You know like a passive aggressive way to drive that wedge and make *her* the bad guy..I really doubt ANYONE who REALLY wanted to see someone could be stopped from seeing them if he is an adult and drives...IF he really wanted to see his family he would find a way either with a backbone or sneaking but he would find a way..nobody COULD keep ME from seeing someone I really wanted to see..unless I used them for that wedge...consciously or subconsciously