Hello! =)

I recently recognized the importance of quantifying my goals.

For example, one of my most important goals in my next three months is 'Score a 'B-' or higher in both my physics classes'. I segmented that broad goal into two specific goals for this week:

• 'Study two hours a day every day for a week'
• 'Study four hours a day every day on a weekend for a week'

I did this because I can ultimately measure whether or not I succeeded. I can time and then chart the time I've studied every day and then edit my specific goals to make it more achievable and measurable. And I feel much better!

But what I struggle with quantifying broad goals like 'Build new relationships' or 'Manage my anger', which I feel are equally worthwhile and important goals in my life at the moment.

For example, I have legitimate questions with 'Build new relationships' that affect how to segment that goal into workable steps:

• Do I have enough time to devote myself to this goal?
• How can I go about building new relationships?
• What about the important relationships I have now?
• Where do I go to build new relationships?
• What do I do to build new relationships?
• What sort of skills do I have to build new relationships?
• How do I 'know' if I've succeeded or failed with something not so easily measured?
• What am I apprehensive of? Scaring others off? Coming on too strong? Transference?
• Am I expecting too much from myself or others?

I'm building simple friendships, for example, with men and women at the local bars, but in all seriousness there is much more than that!

All this bothers me because it's hard to quantify and measure broad goals that are as equally (if not more so) important than quantifiable and measurable goals.

So I wanted to ask for suggestions with this:

• What are your suggestions?
• What are your similar experiences to this?
• How can or did you ultimately segment and measure a goal like 'Manage my negative self-talk' or 'Invest more money'?
• Do you have any recommended articles, books, lectures, etc. (be it online or otherwise)?

I want to continue my self-growth, but I understand the importance of it being manageable and reachable as opposed to vague and unreachable.

Thank you!