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Feb 22, 2011, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by vertebrae
happycheeks ...
You wrote:
"Thank you for your advice  I understand what you're trying to say. My hobbies are photography, playing the guitar and learning languages... how would I find love through them?  Oh well I'm not going to make myself upset just because I don't have a boyfriend. Being single is alright I guess. There's freedom. I feel like other answers I've recieved seemed to be having a go at me."
I think that if you persue what you enjoy doing, and possibly do so in an atmosphere in which said hobby / interest / etc. can insert you into a group of other like minded individuals, then opportunities for expanding your circle of friends will grow accordingly.
As a result, you may find that one or more young men strike your fancy or you theirs. It serves not only to fulfil your interests (in doing something that you love), but to put you on the same "wavelength" as others who enjoy the same thing.
And as an added benefit, with that shared common ground, things tend to "click" more easily than let's say a young woman going out with an preconceived idea of "I've got to get a boyfriend" or a guy saying "I've got to meet a chick tonight". See what I am getting at? The common interests in something (hobby, side projects, social beliefs, etc.) are what serve as the so called "bonding material" which makes those potential relationships all the more appealing and sustainable.
All of the interests you listed above are GREAT ones to have and there are so many other people out there who share them in addition to yourself.
- Guitar players can be found in hip coffee shops / cafes, bookstores, public squares, etc.
- Photographers are everywhere. Photography clubs abound in all areas of society. Just have to narrow down a particular subject or style of photography you enjoy and search the Internet for clubs in your area that have developed a network or meeting schedule amongst themselves.
- Learning a language or the field of linguistics also is another great "ice breaker" of sorts. Learning a certain language with other people can be both a self confidence raising experience because the majority of other students who are learning the same thing most likely have the same level of proficiency as you do.
And that beginer level status allows each of you to make light of each others attempts at pronouncing words or using the proper grammatical structure for that language. That beginner-like status shared by everyone combined with the element of humour acts as a strong bond as well. If you can laugh at yourself as well as laugh along with others in the process, then that shows that you have the mettle to not take yourself too seriously and to be a good sport about it.
OK, gonna scoot here.
Take care and BELIEVE IN YOURSELF,
vertebrae 
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Thanks for your reply 
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