Hi inbloom, I love your courage! What has always worked for me is to work through these things so I would suggest you post what your perspective was here, what your feelings were, etc. and then you can work to an understanding of what happened.

Also, in therapy when your T says you need to build up relationships, there are steps missing. This is probably what you need to be working on in therapy? I would suggest talking in therapy about your history of feeling marginalized.