Just a quick example in that my last relationship was with a man who treated me like a Queen for the first year of our relationship, he was my knight in shinning armor - He had some "quirks" as we all do but he was handsome, successful and charming. Took me places, wined me, dined me, brought me flowers and jewelry - did all those "little" things that we women want our men to do...

Narcissists are great listeners so they find out what it is that truly moves you - then they move you with it when you least expect it so you are so overtly pleased you shower them in adoration...

then little by little the facade fell away bit by bit, piece by piece until there was absolutely no denying that I had indeed been giving my heart, my soul and my love to a man who had no true emotion.

Narcissists begin to "covertly" undermine your sense of value and self esteem then feed you mere crumbs of attention because they know that they "have you" on a hook so to "keep you" all they must do now is give a pittance of their attention to you. Narcissists feel that their presence alone in your life is reward enough for you....

One by one your hopes and dreams fade to black..........until their is complete and total catastrophic annihilation of the "relationship"

It does NOT happen overnight and it is not something that is easily detected - these people do not want to call attention to themselves, they want to appear as normal as they can so they mimic every human emotion known to man - only deep in the recesses of their mind they know....they know that they are damaged, but their life purpose is to make YOU feel damaged so they don't have to.

J...

It's not easy Madi....the "Hyde"