Narcissist-Predator of the Heart

Those who live with or are married to narcissists have been psychologically wounded. The narcissist takes what he or she wants from us and discards the rest. He molds his spouse and children into perfect images that satisfy his endless ego needs. The narcissist is the writer, director and star player in his magnificent drama of delusion. All of those close to him/her are expected to play their roles without question. How you feel as an individual does not matter to the narcissist. Who you are in the depth of your being is of no consequence. The narcissist is a counterfeit person who was forced early to become false to himself and others. He may be bright, successful, powerful, magnetic and compelling but he cannot ever be real---a loving human being.
The narcissist forces those close to him to play the parts assigned. Spouses of the narcissist are often so intimidated and deluded by him that they spend the rest of their days being false selves. They are too afraid to break free from the narcissist's steel psychological grip. These predators of the heart have stolen their true identity, eclipsed their individuality and shut down their sponstaneity and creativity.
Some victims of the narcissist escape this imprisonment by their capacity to stay in touch with the deepest, authentic parts of themselves. Through perserverance and grace they extricate themselves from predatory narcissistic bonds and fly free, often for the first time in their lives.

To learn more about the multiple facets of the narcissistic personality and how to maintain and expand your sacred sense of self, visit my website: www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.



this really gets to the "meat" of the disorder

J