I feel for u this can be hard. Fear of abandonment may have something to do with ur inability to seperate from your therapist. I was only seeing my psychiatrist for about a month when I started with the fantasies.I felt like I was cheating on my boyfriend of 6 years and that made me feel guilty and ashamed. I had no idea what transference was at the time and was soo relieved after I read about it.The fantasies have stopped but still come up from time to time. I saw his wedding ring and found out soon after he had children and was happilly married. My hard part is that my psychiatrist works at the same hospital as I do. I'm an RN and I have to see him for consults for pt.'s on my floor, very uncomfortable.I have not discussed any of this transference stuff with him yet I'm not sure it's a good idea. I wish you the best of luck and wish I could help u more...