There is a reason all those fairy tales end at the wedding (or the first kiss): relationships are hard work. That Hollywood myth that love can conquer all is BS. Some things love can't conquer, and it certainly can't if only one person is working at it.

I don't know your specific circumstances, but it seems a bit hasty to give up after only one attempt at counseling. You wouldn't tell an alcoholic they are doomed to life as a drunk if the first time they try to quit it didn't work out. If your marriage is important to you, try again. At least, as long as it is not something that no one should be expected to live with ever, like abuse or rape.

If your partner is unwilling to attempt to meet your needs, and you are unwilling to go without, you may be able to work out a compromise where you can get those specific needs met by someone else. If your marriage is important to you, it may be worth a try. And if it is failing anyway, what is the worst that could happen? He could say no?