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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Perhaps to keep the perspective that no good relationship in real life is entirely exclusive. Healthy individuals generally have multiple relationships. That includes your therapist (who we hope is a healthy individual  ). Therapists are entirely capable of caring about more than one person at a time. |
I keep this in mind, too - most people have multiple relationships, lots of people they think about/care about. I do. I have many people I care about, think about, love and pray for. People in my real life, family, friends.....and people here.
I have 4 children and am capable of loving them all deeply. I may not be able to give them all attention at the same time.....the one who needs the most attention at a certain time may be getting the most of me, my care and my attention at that time, but that doesn't mean I don't still have the others in my heart and that my love/care for them has diminished! So - I try to keep this in my mind with my friendships and my relationship with my T, that they too have many people they care about, of which I am one, and that sometimes I am getting the individual time and attention and care, and sometimes others are when they need it. But the care felt for me isn't diminished by that; my value in those relationships really isn't diminished or negated. I still have significance, even though others do too.....
I don't have a hard time with my T having other clients, really, or them getting the care they need. I just want to be able to believe that she really cares about
me, or that I am special to her, too; I want to be able to believe more deeply in the connection I personally have with her. And I am beginning to feel more secure in that....safer in that.