You're welcome.But wouldn't you tell a good friend the same thing?I think if we can somehow separate from ourselves and imagine we are someone else,we can ask ourselves what we'd tell a person who said/felt how we do.That's a piece of the strong point in journaling.You can write it out and respond to it as well.
It doesn't mean it 'wins'.It means you are being realistic that we aren't super heros.There seem to be perfect people out there.I see them in the movies.I see them in corporate offices.I see them every where I go.They're perfect.They look great,drive expensive cars,have great looking/acting spouses/kids.Commercials prove everyone is happy.Billboards.
Not reality.Everyone has skeletons.There's so much going on that you and I can't see in secret.Do you honestly believe anyone can handle all things all the time?Did you see the movie..."When a man loves a woman"?The scene where the wife Meg Ryan is falling to bits and at some juncture the husband says to her...you have all you can deal with ....with your little spoon and coffee....Then at the end...she's in A.A and her truths are spoken.So much more to the movie.That's a movie of my life.I can't not cry watching it.
With realization of pattern and origination...comes a power that hadn't existed in the time where this all began.If some one said find an average for these statistics...and refused to give you the statistics...could you give any sort of average?
You know now it isn't the norm.You are gaining insight.
That's right find the gray area.It IS super hard to change engrained life long patterns of thought /behavior.But it is NOT impossible.Tiny bits at a time...just keep striving.
Trauma swallows us.Pulls us back to the scene of the emotional injury.If we can slow the spiral mid or early "swallow",sometimes a distraction from the 'reliving/rehashing' at a moment it is too intense ...then going back to it later ,lessens it's impact.So,oscillate your attention.Pattern interrupt.
We relive things in a variety of ways...bodily memories,emotions,and thoughts.So if one point of focus is overwhelming switch to another.
So keeping one part of your mind in the present,noticing what you smell now,what sounds you hear,what you are looking at....ground yourself where you are.
There are alot of ways to ground.Walking barefoot,balancing,think of a soothing texture,an especially soothing article of clothing.
Seeing options.Because there are options.And I will come back to this.Because it is forcing me to help myself.(Smiles).....~W~