Just because your T can't help you doesn't mean that you have to figure it all out by yourself. I have been in a similar situation, where I wanted professional advice on my parenting from someone, and my T was not the person to help. We did talk about parenting issues sometimes, but I needed something beyond his expertise and focus. We talked about this and I told him what I was looking for, and we brainstormed on how I could get the help I needed, and he gave me several referrals. I think it's OK that a particular therapist cannot do everything for us. I am glad you are looking for other therapists to help with the parenting issues. I ended up seeing a family therapist for a while together with my daughter, and she also got an individual therapist. The very best person for help with parenting, though, was neither of these. It was the therapist who was our "parenting specialist" during our divorce. I saw her several times (as did my kids and XH), and she knew so much about working with children and gave me the best, really useful, nuts and bolts advice. What I really wanted was to find someone like her, but the family therapist and individual therapist for my D did not really fill her role (although they were helpful in different ways). I think there may be people out there like her, though. I could not continue to see her for parenting advice after our divorce due to our contract, otherwise I would have.

Zooropa, I hope you will keep looking for the services that will be helpful to you. And it's OK that your T cannot give you the parenting help you need. At least she was up front and told you that. I hope you can tell her what you need vis a vis parenting help and that she will have some ideas or referrals for you.

I am curious about the anxiety protocol. Are you going to do it? Is it a new technique she has learned recently? I'm thinking if a T knows how to treat anxiety effectively, perhaps they would just mix it into therapy all along? So perhaps you are already familiar with some of what she will do because you've been seeing her for a while? Somehow, the word "protocol" is a bit offputting to me, as it sounds so formulaic and kind of objectifying, but if it works, it works! Good luck with this.