Hi puddles,

Feeling let down by those in your life on whom it seems logical to depend in times of need or crisis has a particularly deep and abiding sting; I know it well and I understand your frustration, sadness, and disappointment. I'm always stunned when I reach out to a family member or friend only to be told my problems are not theirs, or they engage in the subsequent diminishing of my concerns or of me. I know these reactions may be defense mechanisms in some or many instances, but in my opinion, it doesn't excuse the behavior. I've always believed storms weathered together test the true mettle of people and serve to strengthen relationships. I guess I'm often proved wrong.

I hope you're able to find some solace and support here on the site. There are many wonderful, caring, empathetic people here, and they have helped me greatly. I am very sorry for the loss of your mother, and realize the importance of being able to relate the myriad feelings that go along with such loss, even six years later. A sister seems a good place to start in that capacity, and it's awful that yours has been less than receptive. Perhaps she cannot face what has happened, or she is afraid to reminisce with you as that may open wounds for her. Obviously, I am only speculating. Please feel free to talk about your mom here--I and many others would be willing to read/listen.

All the best to you, puddles.