How DARE he say he respects her more than you!!!! WHY did he say that??? In what WAY does he respect her more?? That's an AWFUL thing to say to a wife!!

Just on that remark alone, I would insist that he leave that place, and get another job. Of course he won't, because he's been there so long. So you'd better have something prepared to say if he says "no." Ultimatums are not really good -- but you've got to do something!!

I would certainly go thru his clothes, and if I could, I'd go thru his phone if I could get my hands on it. I'd be a BIG snoop -- he's asking for it anyway. So he goes on trips & takes classes with her, huh?? Well, maybe *I* would take a trip without him!! I'd go someplace really NICE -- and have the time of my life. Then we'll see how HE likes it. Grrrrrr. He's making ME mad and I don't even know him. The bum. Hugs, Lee